Turkey's Dear Abby Comes Out Swinging... Did it seem like it to you too, that the advice-seeker known as "Who's Guilty" (in Part 1 of What Wily Turkish Widowers Want) was a little conflicted in her complaint about her (overly attentive) widowed neighbor....or was that just the way our minds work? No matter...because Güzin Abla wasted no time at all expressing her crystal clear views on the subject... "First of all, you must immediately and completely cut this widower out of your life. Don't even say 'hello' any more -- and, above all, don't indulge in any of the usual (Turkish) pleasantries when you cross paths with him. If your husband is curious about your sudden coldness towards this neighbor, just tell your husband that you never liked the man -- that you'd only been pleasant to him in the past for the sake of your good relationship with his now-deceased wife. With the wife now gone, you feel no further need for pretence where the widowed husband is concerned. People like your widowed neighbor make me furious. How did the world come to be so full of people like him? I'm stupefied by it. Why...just the other day, I heard that a widower had proposed marriage to one of his former wife's friends, on the same day as his wife's funeral, at the very funeral ceremony itself! But also...be careful not to make your husband suspicious. If he knew the truth, it could upset him -- something I know you wish to avoid considering his delicate health. Running away is not the solution...you don't have to leave your home of many years because of a sexually aggressive neighbor. Shut your door to him, don't acknowledge him, and don't even look into his face anymore. I realize that you are still a young woman and that you may be feeling physically unsatisfied due to your husband's condition. But your love for your husband must come first. Like every decent woman you must remain faithful to the end." Gosh Güzin Abla... That's pretty bleak advice, don't you think? You could at least include a suggestion to "Who's Guilty" for a Rabbit Pearl or something like it... to help soothe her 'to the end'. Do you think her husband would mind? Or do you even know what we're talking about...